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5 Keys in a Pastor’s Marriage

MarriageBlog2Following a pastor’s personal salvation and his surrender to the call of God to ministry, I believe his choice of a wife is the most critical decision he can make relating to his life and ministry. I know this, not just by observing the lives of other pastors, but from my own marriage.

I have not always made the best decisions. But when I made a decision to marry Jeana Thomas, it was a great one. Through forty years of marriage, we have learned the value of one another and the value of living life and doing ministry together.

I want to highlight five keys to a successful marriage between a pastor and his wife:

1. Learn from one another.

After being married to one another this long, we have learned so much about each other and marriage. And still, the learning continues. Perhaps what I share today will be an encouragement for your marriage.

2. Walk closely with the Lord individually and together.

One of the things that always encourages me is knowing that when I come out of my home office early in the morning, my wife is also up having her time with God. She does not live on my walk, and I do not live on hers. We walk with the Lord individually. We each take it seriously.

Yet, we walk side-by-side with the Lord. We talk about spiritual and ministry things regularly. We talk with people about their walk with Christ. We pray together nightly. We know it is critical for us to do life and ministry together.

3. Do ministry individually and together.

Jeana has consistently been involved in the ministry of the church. She’s served in the worship ministry, led a cancer support group, participated in weekly jail ministry, and assisted as needed in women’s ministry. She currently leads a neighborhood Bible study, which gives her a unique area of influence.

I am a pastor who does not do ministry alone. Jeana is with me. We have done ministry of all kinds together through the years, from mission trips to funerals to weddings, to so much more. In my service as President of the Southern Baptist Convention, she was there with me. In my present service as the President of the National Day of Prayer, she is there with me.

4. Live life together.

Jeana and I have noticed something in the lives of many ministers and their wives. Many of them live life alone. The wife goes one way and the minister goes another. This is very unhealthy.

Since 1985, Jeana and I have spent Fridays together. Can you believe that? It is rare we are not together on this day. We live life together during the week and on the weekends. Yes, when the children were home, our lives were focused on them, but we still did life together.

Live life together. Ministry and marriage are hard enough. You do not need to fly solo. That is not good for either of you or your marriage. Find a regular time to spend with your spouse. You will not regret it.

5. Honor God’s calling upon your life together.

God is the One who has called you into ministry. If you sensed God’s leadership to marry your spouse, and I assume you did, you must believe that God has called you to walk in ministry together.

Honor God’s calling upon your life together. Do not take it for granted. You have a holy calling upon your lives, both husband and wife.

You have not been called to business, entertainment, or politics, but the ministry of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

This is holy. This is your calling. Live worthy of this call to ministry. Honor God’s calling upon your life together.

Follow Him wherever He leads you. He has a great plan for each of you individually and as a couple. Surrender your marriage to Him now in a new and fresh way. He has wonderful things in store for your life and ministry together.

Now is the Time to Lead and to Pray,

Ronnie W. Floyd

Pastors, Trust in the Providence of God

Pastor, are you trusting in the providence of God in your life and ministry? Providence is God’s guidance and protection in our lives and ministries.

Pastors teach about God’s providence to His people regularly. With a deep believe and conviction, we counsel people about God’s guidance and protection through life. Yet, when it comes to our own lives and ministries, do we believe it with the same level of conviction and operate our lives and ministries accordingly? God will guide and protect you in your life and ministry.

I Have Struggled with God’s Providence. Have You?

There have been many times I have struggled with understanding God’s work in my own life and ministry. I have even wondered why certain doors have closed when I thought they would be open.

Conversely, I have often been overwhelmed with God’s gracious blessing, opening doors for me that I know I do not deserve. God always knows what is best for me. Therefore, He protects me from things I may think are best, but in reality, God knows they are not best for me. Thank you, Lord, for loving me and protecting me.

Are You Trusting in God’s Sovereign Will?

God also desires to work through us. People, places, provisions, and experiences are all under His guidance and care. When He desires to intersect them into your life, you will see His sovereign will fulfilled.

By faith we trust in God’s sovereign will. We join Him in all He is doing. As He invites us to join Him, trust Him. He is worthy to be trusted.

How Do We Trust in the Providence of God in Ministry?

1. Trust in God’s providence even when things are not going well.

There is nothing easy about ministry. It is not an easy calling in life. Most pastors I know are continually under scrutiny. Pastors are weary from constant criticism and cutting cynicism. Many pastors have questions about their future, and at times sense their ministry is in jeopardy. They are hoping and praying for revival in the church or deliverance from the church.

Pastor, God has not forgotten you. He is with you. He wants to teach you.

I will never forget one of the most challenging times I ever faced in ministry. Through that experience, God showed me that He had me in that particular place in life to teach me. God had me there for me more than for the church! This overwhelmed me with conviction from the Spirit of God. I learned through that experience, and many times since, that He guides, protects, and provides even when things are not going well. Trust in God’s sovereign will for your life and ministry.

2. Trust in His providence even when you may not want to.

So many times in life, we want to take our life and ministry in our own hands. We want to manipulate the circumstances or spin our own reality. If we want to be honest with one another, there are times when we struggle with anger about what we are experiencing and even with where we may be serving. In the ministry, jealousy can even override our judgment because others are receiving recognition that we believe we are more worthy to receive.

Yet, we must trust in God’s sovereign will. At times, trusting Him and His will may be far more difficult than trying to take matters into our own hands. Trusting God in ministry involves surrendering our entire life and future to Him. We have to take our hands off of our future, leaving it all in His hands. Pastor, trust in God’s sovereign will for your life.

3. Trust in His providence for your future.

Trust in God’s providence for your future in life and ministry. He knows what is best for you even when you do not. He is more involved with you personally than you even realize. He is moving in the world of today in order to prepare you for the world of tomorrow.

I believe God has big plans for your life and future. You may not see it right now, but He is preparing you. He sees the end from the beginning. At the right time, He will raise you up and entrust you with your future.

Trust God’s providential guidance and care for your life and ministry.

Now is the Time to Lead,

Dr. Ronnie W. Floyd