One of the greatest legacies of any pastor is for his children to grow up loving God and loving the Church passionately.
Yet, this is often not the story of the children of a pastor. Why? Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to this question.
A Brief Testimony
Through the years, hundreds of people have asked how they could pray for our family. Jeana and I were very clear through the years our boys were living at home with us: Pray for Josh and Nick to love God and love the Church passionately.
By grace alone, both Josh and Nick, now in their thirties, love God and love the church passionately. Josh is located in metropolitan Birmingham, Alabama, serving as the Head Football Coach of the Hewitt Trussville Huskies. He and his wife Kate love God and love the church passionately.
Nick is the leader of our Cross Church staff team and serves as Teaching Pastor of not just our Fayetteville campuses, but across the ministry. He and his wife Meredith love God and love the Church passionately.
Now, both Josh and Kate and Nick and Meredith have the privilege of raising their children to live as they did and still do today: Loving God and loving the Church passionately.
4 Things to Consider in Relationship to Your Children
Again, there is no easy answer to how your children grow up and love God and His Church passionately. Yet, perhaps these four things may be worth consideration.
1. Engage Other People to Pray for Your Children
As a pastor, please do not think you are over-spiritualizing the extraordinary challenge of raising your children. Pastors need to request of their church publicly and when asked privately, “Please pray for my children to grow up loving God and loving the Church passionately.”
Pastor, you are continually called upon to pray for other people. There is nothing wrong with requesting that others pray for your children from the time they are toddlers all the way through their collegiate years. This is not a sign of weakness, but personal humility and deep faith in God.
2. Teach Your Children to Walk with God
Pastors spend much time teaching people God’s Word and how to walk in His power through life. If we can do this for our church members, we should do this for our own children.
Yes, from the youngest to the oldest of your children, while living with you, teach them what it means to walk with God. Show them how to do it. We cannot expect them to walk or live in a way we have never shown them personally.
3. Give God a Chance
Many pastors feel they do not need to encourage their children to be involved in church ministries and activities, thinking they will be perceived as forcing them. I respectfully disagree.
My boys grew up always going to church. Yes, unashamedly, Sunday mornings, Sunday nights, Wednesday nights, children’s activities and ministries, and student activities and ministries. We started with church, not sports, personal preferences, or peer influence. Our boys were never bitter or resentful. They were afforded life-changing experiences at student camps and retreats, on mission trips, choir trips, and multiple other experiences. Powerful relationships were formed and they are connected forever to their former student pastors.
Pastor, give God a chance with your kids. They need to be in spiritual environments as children and teenagers to have God do a work in their life.
4. Walk by Faith, Trusting God
As parents, pastors need to teach their children to walk with God and continually place them in environments where God has a powerful chance with their kids. Then while asking people to pray for them, walk by faith, trusting God for their future with Him and His Church.
Your child may take a periodic tour away from God, but God is able to pull them back to Himself. His Word never returns void and the prayers of His people have lasting influence with Him.
Therefore, what we can do as parents, whether we are pastors or not, is to walk by faith, trusting God.
In the meantime, love your children unconditionally and call out to God on their behalf in prayer daily, periodically even coupling those prayers with fasting.
Our God is able! Trust Him by faith!
Now is the Time to Lead,
Ronnie W. Floyd
Men of influence all have one thing in common: Influencing other men positively. Last fall, a small dinner party was planned for Jeana and me. Unknown to us, some men whose life had been shaped dramatically under our ministry here, along with their wives, had traveled in for this small gathering. Others shared stories via video.
In this gathering, we celebrated something I suppose I had taken for granted as I was living in the stream of daily ministry life: God had used me personally to help shape their lives positively. Stories they shared were serious as well as humorous, and a few even took the opportunity to point out humor in some of my habits. It was a very special evening to Jeana and me.
Fast Forwarding A Few Days
Based upon this extraordinary evening, a few days later our Leadership Team reached an important decision. We knew we needed to intentionally celebrate men positively influencing other men.
What had been witnessed by each of us was a dynamic reality: Those men had grown up and are now positively influencing other men. Each of these influencers are dynamic forces in leadership at churches and ministries in a positive manner today. God is using them to shape the lives of other men.
This Reminds Us of a Powerful Word from the Bible
This entire experience reminded me of a powerful word from the Bible.
2 Timothy 2:2, “And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, commit to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.”
There is nothing like experiencing 2 Timothy 2:2 personally while simultaneously seeing it lived out in the lives of others.
The Vision of MEN OF INFLUENCE
This weekend on Friday night and Saturday morning at our annual Northwest Arkansas Men’s Conference, we will forward this compelling vision of men positively influencing the lives of other men. Thus, our theme is MEN OF INFLUENCE.
Unfortunately, there is no way to invite all of the influencers from last fall’s gathering to speak to the men who will gather for this conference. However, we have invited four influencers to call the 1,200 men who will attend to embrace this compelling vision to be Men of Influence.
While 90% of the men who attend the conference will come due to being connected to Cross Church, the rest will come from across Arkansas, Oklahoma, and Missouri.
I want to encourage men, from younger teenagers to the eldest of men, whether single or married, this conference is for you. If you haven’t already, register now!
You may wonder why we invited these leaders to come when you may not have heard of most of them. It comes down to this: We believe these men have a unique message to share with other men… including you. Besides hearing the four men from outside of our ministry, you will also hear from our own Dr. Nick Floyd. Dynamic worship led by our outstanding worship team will explode this environment into a very special and memorable weekend.
Spread the word. Bring a friend. Gather the crowd. Yes, register today.
Now is the Time to Lead,
Ronnie W. Floyd
Senior Pastor, Cross Church
To request an interview with Dr. Ronnie Floyd
contact Gayla Oldham at (479) 751-4523 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.